I love my hubby but I don't always like him? Is he being unreasonable?

when he comes home from work he makes me bow down to his feet and i have to say %26quot;good evening Master%26quot; he then expects me to take his shoes off and bring him a glass of water which is ok i guess..i then have to serve him dinner (a three course meal which i spent all day cooking) after dinner he watches t.v or does the paperwork he has me kneel at his feet until he tells me to go get something for him..e.g. beer / sandwich..i have to take leave of him to go run his bathwater..after he has his bath i dry him and help him put his robe on..then i give him a massage or a lapdance whatever he prefers..in bed im not allowed to say no to anything he asks..this is a typical day for us..sometimes i feel like he expects too much from me but then again he works so hard and takes good care of me..is it ok for me to do these things for him?

I love my hubby but I don%26#039;t always like him? Is he being unreasonable?
I nominate you for wife of the century
Reply:How can you love him? Get some back bone,get off that floor and get the rolling pin insert it with force between his eyes.This is BS.I don%26#039;t think you are for real.If you are you are the biggest dumb *** I have ever heard of.You want to be a slave? I wish I could take your place for 5 minutes.I would show him a real women.The weman in Texas don%26#039;t take no crap.
Reply:Get real......what a bunch of bull.
Reply:when in doubt, read jess%26#039;s answer again. and again.





this is a highly abnormal and one sided relationship with zero respect for you. i couldn%26#039;t take it for a minute.
Reply:...and you put up with this?!





...you allow yourself to be degraded by him?!





Sister...something is wrong with you!





Believe that!
Reply:To bow down to him means he thinks he is superior to you. He is not, you are equal to him. Does he do anything for you?





When you say he takes good care of you what do you mean?





You are not in a culture that expects this from a wife. Nor are you a maid,slave,prostitute or Geisha.





If you enjoy doing this for your husband then I would say it is ok but if you feel like its too much then speak up and tell him. Let him know you love him very much but that it is getting to be too much work doing this routine every day. Suggest that you do it every other day so that you can enjoy it instead of being like a robot performing. That way he shouldn%26#039;t take offense because he is not losing his pampering. also tell him on the days you don%26#039;t do this for him could he possibly doing something for you? Maybe not all that you do for him but maybe a foot massage or just running your bath water.





Compromise goes a long way.
Reply:WELL, he expects the services from you that you have been giving him - HOW, or WHY you ALLOWED yourself to be subservient to him is beyond my comprehension!!! This is not a marriage, it is Master and Slave!!! I cannot blame HIM for this - I have to hold YOU responsible - YOU put yourself there, and I guarantee there is no way he will want to change a thing.


I am embarrassed as a woman that you do not know slavery is no longer %26quot;OK%26quot; - -
Reply:yeah I think it is...LOL
Reply:Now the standards of decency are really slipping. Is is ok for you to be his slave? Is it ok for him to treat you like a dog? No.





Send him to me I%26#039;ll have him praising you by the time I%26#039;ve finished with him.
Reply:well if YOUR ok with it, then w/e.





if MY man said any ONE of those things to me, id probably turn around and laugh at his face and say %26quot;Pshh yeah right get it yourself!%26quot;





i personally think what YOUR going thru, is completely wrong. your hubby is a control freak and if you objected once to anything, he would flip out.





i understand that you love him, but he is being unrealistic and unfair. what does he do for you besides make money? how does he show you true love? if he really loved you, hed offer to make you dinner some nights. if he really loved you, hed ask you to join in on his bath.





true love isnt expecting things, its accepting things.





please feel free to email me if you would like more help.
Reply:wow.


you must be from a different culture because there is not one north american woman I know who would think this is ok.


I just have no idea what to say to you. This is the most absurd thing I%26#039;ve ever heard and I%26#039;m hoping that this isn%26#039;t even a real question, that this isn%26#039;t someone%26#039;s real life.


I%26#039;m not sure what your definition of %26quot;SLAVE%26quot; is but mine comes pretty close to what you%26#039;ve described.


If you are ok with what he is doing then that is the life you choose.


If you are not ok with it and it does not make you feel good then you need to take some action to change things.
Reply:You have got to be kidding, right?


If you are serious you have a big problem and need help-fast.
Reply:Ha! He wishes! No way. This is just a fantasy.
Reply:If you%26#039;re okay with that sure! But if he smacks you around, uh no. That%26#039;s not okay.





But every marriage is different. Have you talked to him yet? Did you know he was like this before you married him?? If he was, than you can only blame yourself for marrying a guy like this.





Just pray is all I can say.
Reply:Lady - only you are to blame for the way he treats you. You either put up with it - or you don%26#039;t. Simple as that.
Reply:A good solid marriage is based on equality. You sound like you are his servant. And not being allowed to say no in the bedroom is pretty dangerous. He has total control of your life and it appears your mind as well because if you cant work out that his treatment of you is unacceptable then he has brainwashed you real good. If you enjoy being nothing more than a submissive, mindless woman, then keep on allowing him to treat you like a slave. If you like yourself even just a little bit, then go and see a counsellor who will help you work on your self esteem.
Reply:Only if you are completely okay with it! Otherwise, he%26#039;s treating you like a slave! Marriage should be two equal partners, sharing the same amount of chores, happiness, and love towards each other. How did you get stuck in his marriage? He seems like a horrible man!
Reply:Are you for real? I hope you%26#039;re kidding. I%26#039;d say he expects you to be his personal slave. I don%26#039;t care how good he takes care of you. Sounds like your a prisoner of his own desires.


Get out while you can.



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