Is it OK for my hubby to be my Master?

when he comes home from work he makes me bow down to him at his feet and i have to say %26quot;good evening Master%26quot; he then expects me to take his shoes off and bring him a glass of water..i then have to serve him dinner (a three course meal which i spent all day cooking) after dinner he watches t.v or does the paperwork he has me kneel at his feet until he tells me to go get something for him..e.g. beer / sandwich..i have to take leave of him to go run his bathwater..after he has his bath i dry him and help him put his robe on..then i give him a long massage..in bed (and out of bed) he makes me call him Master or Sir and im not really allowed to say no to anything he asks ..this is a typical day for us..sometimes i feel like he expects too much from me but then again he works so hard and takes good care of me..is it ok for me to do these things for him?

Is it OK for my hubby to be my Master?
No that is not normal, I have been married 9 years and we have 3 kids and I would NEVER treat my wife like that I love her too much and respect her too much to treat her like a damn servant.
Reply:This is 2007 honey. If you are calling him master, then you are implying that you are his slave. You dear are in an abusive relationship, and if you can%26#039;t see that, you really need help. There are safe houses that you can run to. They will help you get away from him and they will help you get on your feet. If you are in the U.S. contact your local United Way. I%26#039;m curious, what does he do if you don%26#039;t do exactly as he wishes? Does he berate you? Does he hit you? Nevertheless you are definitely being psychologically abused. When you have kids is that how you want your daughter to grow up? Do you want your daughter to be a slave to a man who makes her call him master? You do not need this man in your life. You can do better. Women don%26#039;t have to put up with that crap! It%26#039;s not the 1800%26#039;s. You do not exist for the pleasure and use of men. You are an individual entity with qualities, talents, intelligence, and contributions to make to the world. GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE NOW!!!!! It is only going to get worse!!!
Reply:That%26#039;s halarious. Thanks for the laughs.





By the way... I am not supporting this behavior. There is just no way this is real.
Reply:I don%26#039;t believe your story. If he was so in control of what you do how would you be on Yahoo spending your time online....
Reply:it%26#039;s not the norm, and you wouldn%26#039;t catch me in a relationship like this, but if you are willing, and not feeling belittled or shamed or uncomfortable in any way, then i gues to each their own.


Please don%26#039;t everyone jump on me about this--i don%26#039;t condone it, but people actually do live their lives this way. Personally i have only seen them on jerry springer, but everybody has their own thing i guess
Reply:that%26#039;s insane!! I%26#039;d tell him to run his own bath water and dry his own self off! your his wife not his slave!! and as for calling him master and bow to his feet... I%26#039;d tell him to go f*ck himself!!!





i could see if this was in the bedroom you know a little roll playing or dominatrix but it%26#039;s not... and no offense but your stupid for putting up with it!!





the next time he tells you that you can%26#039;t say %26quot;no%26quot; to him or talk unless he tells you to.. tell him that it%26#039;s our 1st amendment it%26#039;s called freedom of speech!!!





don%26#039;t you realize that your in a domestic violence relationship? he%26#039;s mentally abusing you and emotionally.





get out and get out fast and don%26#039;t look back!!





best of luck!!
Reply:Absolutely not, especially if you aren%26#039;t comfortable doing it. You should ask someone professional about this really. It seems like he may feel good making you his own personal maid. You should definitely stop as it seems he is living out some sort of fantasy with you.
Reply:In some cultures this is normal. In the modern, western world this is not acceptable. This is a very dominate man that will most likely turn pysical if you were to %26quot;disobey%26quot; him. If you are truly comfortable with this and are sure that things won%26#039;t turn for the worse, then stick with it. If not, then leave quick before he hurts you even worse than he already has.





It is one thing to take his shoes off at the end of the day, massage his feet, cook his dinner, grab him a beer, run his bath (not all - all the time), occasionally, but what does he do for you in the relationship? Money doesn%26#039;t count - you ca do that yourself.
Reply:I notice that you are new to Y/A. The question you ask, seems to be one that you asked just testing the water.


However I will give you a serious answer hoping it might help someone that finds themselves in a similar situation.


This is not new behavior, why did you allow this person in your life to begin with?


To demand this servile behavior from another, is abusive. and should never be tolerated.


Once again, if this really is occurring in your life, move out now! Their are many shelters for abused women. You will find safety, and guidance there.
Reply:wow, he likes S %26amp; M play, huh...If it works for you and you%26#039;re into it then whatever, but if you%26#039;re not then tell him it%26#039;s not for you. S %26amp; M works when both parties enjoy it. If he is getting physically abusive then you should leave. If you are uncomfertable with the arrangement you seem to have then you should speak up.
Reply:few people would want what you have but if you%26#039;re happy remember some have it far worse and there is always a way to find an alternative path . ....all things considered it you%26#039;re choice. Settle or find a friend to help you change it .


good luck
Reply:Yikes! Please tell me you are joking. That whole %26#039;master%26#039; thing isn%26#039;t cool in any context; even in relation to a dog and human. Give me a break... What would happen if you didn%26#039;t do these things? Why are you so dependent on him that you would allow yourself to be disrespected in that way? If you%26#039;re asking, you%26#039;re obviously not comfortable in the situation.
Reply:This is a made up question, no humans behave in such a fashion. Thank you for an entertaining (in a sick way) question. Since you make things up then how about this--- a hooked blade upward into and through the left side of his inner thigh--- pretty quick-- kinda messy---problem solved.
Reply:OMG IS HE UR HUSBAND.? DO U HAVE ANY KIDS WITH HIM? OK U HAVE TO LEAVE HIM OR AT LEAST SET THINGS STRAIGHT I MEAN OMG HOW CAN U DO THAT MY DAD WORKS AND MY MOM DOESNT DO THAT TO HIM! U SHOULD REALLY DO SOMETHING BECAUSE I MEAN R U HAPPY IF UR NOT U HAVE TO DO SOMETHIN.





PS WHAT DOES HE DO WHEN U SAY NO.
Reply:Are you KIDDING? Please tell me that%26#039;s NOT true. If you do these things you need therapy! Does he think he%26#039;s %26quot;God%26quot; or something? He%26#039;s not treating you with any respect or dignity...and you are letting him dominate and control your life like that? He doesn%26#039;t love you. He wants a servant, not a wife. How can you put up with that? Do you really think it%26#039;ll ever get any better? Don%26#039;t you think you deserve to be treated like a human being? What about equality? You have needs, desires, feelings, dreams, goals....don%26#039;t you? Do you think you deserve so much less? I don%26#039;t know how long you%26#039;ve been with this creep, or why you thought it would be a good idea to marry him...but I can tell you this: he%26#039;s not very likely going to change for the better, no matter how many %26quot;expressions%26quot; of love you try to show him by doing his every bidding. The more you %26quot;bow down%26quot; to him, the more demanding and controlling he%26#039;s going to be. You are reinforcing his belief system. And you are robbing yourself of a happier life! I hope to God you don%26#039;t bring children into this dysfunctional atmosphere. Do you want your kids to learn this kind of behavior? Does he beat you? Humilate you when you don%26#039;t obey him? Do you fear not doing what he tells you to do? What kind of life is that? Have some respect for yourself! Get out of there while you still can! You%26#039;re not a piece of property, a servant, a doormat! What is wrong with you? I guarantee that 99% of men won%26#039;t treat you like that piece of s---- does. Kick him to the curb! Don%26#039;t waste your life away! You deserve so much better. And there are men out there who would treat you with so much more kindness....this guy doesn%26#039;t love you. He%26#039;s a narcissist...he loves HIMSELF.
Reply:(I%26#039;m shaking my head).....it%26#039;s 2007 sweetheart.





Does he knows that you are on the computer???





If you can sneak on the computer. Run for the door or you%26#039;re going to end up like all those missing wives, that have been showing up in the news lately!!!!!! Found dead.





If you have a telephone, call the Maury Povich show!


There are unbelievable women like you on there all the time. I don%26#039;t want to insult you and it%26#039;s hard for me to hold my tongue, unlike the other answers.......but they are right.





I hope you don%26#039;t have children?
Reply:ok... listen ..your relationship is not healthy at all.. he has no respect for you what so ever!!! If he truly loved you he wouldnt treat you as his servant. What you need is a man who shows you his love back .Him working thats not the way to show love to a person..If you respect and love yourself then you will leave him..You can take care of yourself you are not a baby find a job get your own place accomplish your dreams, and be free then youll trully be happy!
Reply:You should seek profesional help!
Reply:this is pretty much like telling every man on yahoo he can treat women like Crap! that is nonsense, you are undoing the things women have been fighting for years, you need to leave this man before he starts beating you.
Reply:It%26#039;s OK as long as you get some satisfaction out of the way the relationship is working.





If he%26#039;s abusive in any way - then it%26#039;s absolutely NOT OK.
Reply:no. here%26#039;s what you do. you make him dinner. but there%26#039;s no reason he can%26#039;t do the dishes. he can take his own shoes off and get dressed himself. as far as getting him food, don%26#039;t! if he%26#039;s busy doing paperwork and he says Could you get me a beer sweety? then says thanks I love you, that%26#039;s different. don%26#039;t let him walk all over you.
Reply:NO NEVER!!!! How do you feel about your husband treating you like this?. You take care of him yes but not like this, and your husband is being very controlling. And you have to take care of your needs too not your husbands needs, he has to be responsible for himself and to take care of his needs too, and I hope he gives you massages and cooks dinner for you too. You must get so tried and feel drained?.... You have to ask yourself if it is worth being in a controlling, demanding and disrespectful relationship? Please get some self-esteem, and stand up for yourself your not his SLAVE and you deserve to be treated like his wife and be his equal and not be treated like a door mat!!. HE IS NOT GOD! so don%26#039;t treat him like he is!!!! Maybe therapy could help you. It%26#039;s your choice!! He has NO right to treat you like this. Is this what you wanted when you married him?
Reply:You%26#039;re basically degrading yourself by being a slave to your %26quot;hubby%26quot;. You should tell him that he cannot control you and treat you a piece of property, preferably in a room with many ways to escape in case he acts violently. Tell him this isn%26#039;t the 1800s.
Reply:NO! That is a twisted relationship. That is not normal or Ok! Women have fought for years for equal rights, and you are trampling over their hard work. This is crazy. You can%26#039;t keep doing this. He%26#039;s is using and abusing you.
Reply:If you%26#039;re kidding.... meh....not that funny.





If your serious.... some couples do enjoy Master Slave relationships but it%26#039;s usually based on and designed around %26quot;sexual%26quot; Dominance and Submission.


LOL....He just wants beer and baths...not a sex slave? ;)



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